Based on the date, I imagine your wedding is coming up very soon. While people offering suggestions re: alternate plans for you, were most likely well-intended, it would seem that time has passed and this was more meant to be a piece about your feelings surrounding the intricacies of your circumstance. That said, my first wedding was big and my second was very small. I took the time to explain to the people that weren't invited, why I chose to keep it as such. No one seemed to mind and appreciated that I took the time to explain. And if they did mind, well, I am not a mind-reader and do not assume responsibility for other peoples' feelings. We do what we can and communication is key. I hope your day is beautiful and wish you the best!