Wow! Thanks for taking the time to provide such an informative and thoughtful response. Everything you shared is so on point. Yes- DBT is truly what she would need. I was hoping to just get a foot in the door with trauma work. Alas, you se how that went... When I first realized her illness, I did a ton of research. Th book, Surviving a Borderline Parent was very helpful for me and I still pick it up again from time to time when I need some support.